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===About===
 
  
Karen "Frito" Lawrence is currently an active player of XProject. She began playing [[Marie-Ange Colbert]] in May of 2003, and [[Kyle Gibney]] in October of 2004. She currently acts as one of the admins for the Xproject wiki, and is currently a mod. She also hosts and maintains the webpage and is generally responsible for dealing with the technical end of any of the webpage-y things for the game.
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She can be reached on gchat via the email address, or email at [[Image:FritoEmail.jpg|125px]] Her preferred means of contact is email, and her personal journal, full of memes, posts about cupcakes, assorted miscellany, and semi-frequent actual content can be found at [http://frito-kal.livejournal.com Frito]. The picture shown here is not actually representative of Frito, except in that she is immature enough to stick her tongue out at people on a regular basis.
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Karen "Frito" Lawrence is currently an active player of X-Project. She began playing [[Marie-Ange Colbert]] in May of 2003, and [[Kyle Gibney]] in October of 2004. She currently acts as one of the admins for the Xproject wiki, and has been a mod of the game twice previously, retiring from her most recent tenure as a mod in April 2017. She also hosts and maintains the webpage and is generally responsible for dealing with the technical end of any of the webpage-y things for the game.
  
A former resident of Baltimore and the Washington DC Area, she now lives in Escondido, CA (a bit north of San Diego) and is throughly enjoying (and occasionally gloating about) the total lack of anything like winter. She lives with [[Twiller]], and has a truly astounding number of stuffed animals for someone who is in her thirties.
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She can be reached on gchat via the email address, or email at [[Image:FritoEmail.jpg|125px]] Her preferred means of contact is email, and her personal journal, full of memes, posts about cupcakes, assorted miscellany, and infrequent actual content can be found at [http://frito-kal.dreamwidth.org Frito]. The picture shown here is not actually representative of Frito. Mostly. She has a twitter. You can probably guess that it's [https://twitter.com/Frito_KAL also Frito_Kal]
  
She also claims to be 1/4 allosarus.
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A former resident of Baltimore and the Washington DC Area, she now lives in San Marcos, CA (a bit north of San Diego) - she hates snow and shoes, and loves seafood, tea and math. She lives with [[Twiller]] and their son "Typechip", born in [[February 2014]], and has a truly astounding number of stuffed animals for someone who is in her forties.
  
What time is it where Frito is (Escondido, CA)?
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She also claims to be 1/4 allosaurus.
  
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[http://community.livejournal.com/x_project/77144.html?thread=874840#t874840 Feedback - November 2007]
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[http://community.livejournal.com/x_project/111599.html?thread=1139695#t1139695 Feedback - March 2009]
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[http://x-project.livejournal.com/137331.html?thread=1327219#t1327219 Feedback - March 2010]
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[http://x-project.livejournal.com/167981.html?thread=1404973#t1404973 Feedback - September 2011]
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/132944.html?thread=1320528#cmt1320528 Feedback - March 2010]
  
[http://x-project.livejournal.com/188351.html?thread=1487807#t1487807 Feedback - August 2012]
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[http://x-project.livejournal.com/216008.html?thread=1606344&style=mine#t1606344 Feedback - December 2013]
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/249649.html?thread=1732913#cmt1732913 Feedback - February 2016]
  
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/269635.html?thread=1990467#cmt1990467 Feedback - March 2017]
  
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/287110.html?thread=2068614#cmt2068614 Feedback - January 2018]
  
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/311236.html?thread=2145732#cmt2145732 Feedback - May-July 2019]
  
[[Image: Awesome stars.jpg|100 px]] For updating any page on the To Do List in 2011.
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[https://xproj-players.dreamwidth.org/395585.html?thread=6308929#cmt6308929 Feedback - July 2021]
  
[[Image:Worker bee.jpeg]] For volunteering to help during the Great 2011 Wiki Update.
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[https://x-project.dreamwidth.org/350652.html?view=2161596&posted=1#cmt2161596 Feedback - July 2022]
  
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Latest revision as of 11:35, 7 February 2024

Frito
Frito.jpg
Character(s): Marie-Ange Colbert, Kyle Gibney
Email: FritoEmail.jpg
Pronouns: she/her
Date joined: May 2003


About

Karen "Frito" Lawrence is currently an active player of X-Project. She began playing Marie-Ange Colbert in May of 2003, and Kyle Gibney in October of 2004. She currently acts as one of the admins for the Xproject wiki, and has been a mod of the game twice previously, retiring from her most recent tenure as a mod in April 2017. She also hosts and maintains the webpage and is generally responsible for dealing with the technical end of any of the webpage-y things for the game.

She can be reached on gchat via the email address, or email at FritoEmail.jpg Her preferred means of contact is email, and her personal journal, full of memes, posts about cupcakes, assorted miscellany, and infrequent actual content can be found at Frito. The picture shown here is not actually representative of Frito. Mostly. She has a twitter. You can probably guess that it's also Frito_Kal

A former resident of Baltimore and the Washington DC Area, she now lives in San Marcos, CA (a bit north of San Diego) - she hates snow and shoes, and loves seafood, tea and math. She lives with Twiller and their son "Typechip", born in February 2014, and has a truly astounding number of stuffed animals for someone who is in her forties.

She also claims to be 1/4 allosaurus.

Phase 2

Socking

Modsocks NPCs Villains Formerly Socked
Amelia Voght Rebecca Barnes

Storm Family

Odin

Ian McNee

Bullseye

Abyss

Slendermen

Phase 1

Socking

Modsocks NPCs Villains Formerly Socked
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Big Bertha

Storm Family

Quentin Quire,

Milan

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Rebecca Barnes

Ian McNee

Skurge the Executioner

Cameron Hodge

Abyss

Dark Riders

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The Orphan Maker

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We have 1,968 articles with actual content.

Today is Monday, July 1, 2024.

This month in XProject: July 2024

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Daily Events

July 1 - Canada Day, Liam Nelson's birthday


2003: Sam still has feelings for Piotr despite being with Alison. Lorna and Alex's relationship begins after they fight in the hallway.

2004: Marauders (plot): Clarice and Shinobi talk to Nathan over the Sarah issue and the email he sent calling them accessories to murder. Alex and Lorna's one-year anniversary and Lorna tells him about her decision to join the X-Men. Pete emails Amanda about healing his gun wounds. Jubilee gets an email about her online enquiries about Amanda's scars.

2005: The mansion gets a huge delivery of ice cream care of Bobby, leading to an outbreak of sugar highs, and Forge building a two-foot-tall attack robot to guard his share. Amanda passes her driving test. Alison tells Terry she needs more powers training, but Terry is reluctant to go to the obvious choice - Sean. Nathan goes for a few days in San Francisco, where Saul Morrow tries very hard to put him at ease. Hank and Madelyn share confessions and take the next step in their relationship.

2006: Amanda gets mad and goes to a club after arguing with Sofia, and then later goes for curry with Doug. Nathan takes Sofia out for coffee and does some art therapy with Haller. Scott and Ororo do paperwork. Bleeding: Crystal convinces Jennie to visit Marius in the medlab; the visit does not go well at all, and Crystal makes it rain indoors.

2007: Logan asks Farouk to use his telepathy to find a clue to Logan's past, with uncomfortable results. Scott and Amanda talk about the things they have in common, post Voodoo Child. Nathan is released from the infirmary and apologises to the mansion telepaths for Rachel's panic. Sound of Silence: Pietro emails Scott with some news - the plane has been found and bodies recovered; the royal wedding, and Forge has no luck trying to see the Amaquelins. Amanda pulls the scarring and goes to Jean for a checkup.

2008: Doug has the Discovery Channel song stuck in his head. Bhagavad Gita: Angelo informs Nathan he's heard from Samie Kander and her family and they're okay; Pete sets the team to investigating how a suitcase nuke could have been built without them knowing; further news reveals the 'bomb' was actually a mutant; Wanda reacts to the news; Fred Duncan instructs Garrison to gather a secret team to investigate the mutant under the FBI auspices; Al Jazeera airs a tape from the "Sons of Bakr", claiming responsibility. Monet complains about missing One Tree Hill due to news coverage; Garrison manages to convince Morgan and Adrienne to come to India; Garrison asks Pete and Emma for help; Garrison goes to recruit Farouk and is surprised when he immediately agrees to come; Paige emails Tommy to ask for his help in the investigation; Garrison notifies the staff of various absences Le Monde is scathing in its report on the American reaction; Samson asks Garrison if he can help; Terry organises a Red X response with blood drives and care packages; the White House announces the UN weapons inspectors/FBI taskforce going to investigate; Remy sends Jubilee and Wanda to India with the team. Forge and Manuel encounter each other in the infirmary and wind up in a hostility loop. Callie can't sleep and is making cupcakes when Jane stumbles across her in the kitchen.

2009: Callie suggests that the beach might be too much for Yvette and Julian decides to try and make waves in the pool instead. Mnemovore: Shiro visits Jean-Paul, who has been released from the medlab, and is disturbed by the other man's condition. Cammie brings Jake donuts, booze and company. Needing to meditate after seeing Jean-Paul, Shiro goes out to his tree, only to find Jay in it; Jay offers a different kind of distraction and Shiro takes him up on it. Analog Kid, Digital Man: The group relaxes on Attilan after their disastrous vacation; Milan breaks Quire out of jail.

2010: Lorna announces grocery shopping for the Fourth of July weekend and requests minions.

2011: Tabitha posts from the Hamptons, enjoying herself. Don't Close Your Eyes: A group of men, with a disturbing knowledge of the mansion, infiltrate the building and overcome the residents with the mansion's security measures; Haller discovers what is going on when he tries to return to the mansion and receives an ultimatum - four Brotherhood members to be released from jail, no feds, in twelve hours, or they will blow up the mansion; Haller manages to contact Doug, Kurt and Crystal and they discuss options; Kurt teleports into the Box to rescue Charles, but is taken down by an illusionist pretending to be Charles; in retaliation for the attempted rescue, Amelia is killed; Meggan, Jubilee and Amara are trapped in a dream where Selene has taken New York and Meggan is her apprentice; Amara is forced to generate a volcano in which Meggan is sacrificed while Jubilee watches; the dream repeats, only this time the girls manage to overwhelm Selene and escape the nightmare; Jubilee contacts Doug from inside the mansion and lets him know that the mansion dwellers are trapped in nightmares and that she, Amara and Meggan managed to escape the Danger Room under cover of the distraction of another death; Amara, Jubilee and Meggan manage to get to the Box and rescue the Professor while the illusionist flees the mansion; Doug, Haller and Crystal sneak into the mansion via the escape tunnels and Crystal takes on the teleporter while Doug hacks the system and Haller shields them psionically; the group returns to the Danger Room and come up with a plan - Haller and Charles will try to wake the sleepers while Crystal and Meggan tend to the injured and act as guards, while Jubilee and Amara create a distraction; having second thoughts, the technopath reluctantly arms the bomb, and is killed by one of his co-hostage takers; Charles and Haller find the sleepers are all linked together and to Jean and that simply trying to cut the connection between her and their attacker will lobotomise everyone; Haller also tells Charles of Amelia and Sophie Stepford's deaths; in their shared nightmare, Angel, Yvette, Sarah and Klara are vacationing in a small seaside town where things seem a bit off; discovering they are being followed, Angel and Yvette move to accost their stalker, only to have the crowd attack Klara and Sarah for being witches; Yvette's suit fails and she injures several of the crowd before she and Sarah are overwhelmed and taken by Dr. Henry McCoy, seeking new mutants to sell overseas; Hank tortures and disfigures Sarah while Yvette is locked in a crate nearby, helpless to save her; Vanessa and Garrison are trapped in Jean's nightmares with a version of Scott, first experiencing her memories of Alkali Lake and then her memories of having a miscarriage in California, while they are betrayed by Jane; Jean realises who is responsible - Parker Matthews, also known as Mesmero, now calling himself Nightmare; Jean shoves Garrison and Vanessa out of her mind and when they wake up, they tell Charles and Haller who is pulling the strings; in their dream, Angel tries to save Klara from being burned at the stake, but her powers go out of control and set fire to the town; Kurt enters the dream and has to kill his brother, Stefan, in order to save Klara; chased down to the docks, they see Hank sailing away with Sarah and Yvette, but Angel's powers fail as she pursues him; as the mob draws closer, Kurt is ready to kill Klara to stop her being burned to death, but Charles and Haller manage to sever the link to Jean at the very last minute; Monet, Kyle, and Piotr wake up in an abandoned stadium in Sydney; Monet is horrified to discover herself in the body of Marius St. Croix; Kyle, recognizing his old foe, attacks her while Piotr tries to stop them but cannot understand what they're saying; eventually Kyle realizes Monet is trapped in Marius's body but he suddenly loses control and starts to attack people; they are soon rescued from the nightmare by Xavier and Haller; Kyle might have woken, but a trigger implanted by Nightmare sets him to attack Meggan, injuring her before Kurt teleports him into the Box; the reminder of the White Room drives him into a worse frenzy and Kurt is injured as well before teleporting back out; Kurt runs into Hank and Sarah, on their way to disarm the bomb in Cerebro and joins them; Sarah manages to shut down the bomb, although suffering from electric shocks in the process; Jean fights Nightmare on the astral plane and defeats him, but nearly destroys her mind in the process; Garrison and Vanessa go to help Amara and Jubilee battling the two remaining men in the mansion, only to have the teleporter escape and the other, calling himself the Fear Eater, collapse unconscious as his link with Nightmare is cut; Charles and Haller discover Jean's mind is too damaged to contact her; the mansion dwellers regroup and discover what has happened, to Nightmare and to Jean.

2012: Angel posts wondering why people say redheads don't have souls. Amanda finds out about Jubliee dating Kurt and she goes to talk to Jubliee about it.

2013: Doug wishes Garrison a happy Canada Day. Wade is more impressed by his gift from Doug, a mousse moose.

2014: Matt asks for suggestions for the group date he and Rachel are having with Angel, having “bought” her at the auction. Wade emails Cecilia to offer his help with her date with Longshot, as he doesn’t trust the man; Wade texts Doug to see if he’s dug up any more information about Longshot.


2015: Adrienne posts a plea for help as Garrison has made her go to Toronto to watch the Sox and the Jays play. Megan lets people know that there is an arts and crafts fair in District X. Bobbi comments on how she’s got Carly Rae Jepsen songs stuck in her head. Sooraya goes to Kevin for help on the background of a project. Alison asks if anyone going to the store can get her some laser pointers, Sue agrees to bring some home from work.

2016: Everett bumps into Cecilia on her morning run with Lucky, they get to know one another while discussing powers and their time at the mansion.

2017: Amanda emails the magical people about the meaning of the stones and the existence of the Winding Way. She also alerts the various teams. Cecilia posts about going on vacation.

2018:

2019: Fear in the Dark: X-Force puts their plan to motion; The second part of the heist, getting in, goes off without a hitch; the heist almost goes according to plan, until the ravens interfere; Wanda and Clea are waiting nearby as lookouts when they see two men teleporting out.

2020:

2021: Jubilee posts about a song she identifies with. Emma talks about dealing with renovations and ponders someone buying her an appropriate mug. Marie-Ange thanks Fourteen for a belated Christmas gift.

2022: With Independence Day just around the corner, Jubilee asks the mansion to join her in celebrating. A Danger Room session with Kane has April evaluating her moves. Terry texts Darcy to ask if she'd be willing to pick her and Kyle up Sunday.

2023: Doug makes a journal entry about a funny image he found. Darcy and Haller finally meet in person and have a discussion about the blow-up on the journals, and afterwards she provides a little tech support. Arthur goes to see Wanda about his new powers development and winds up talking it over with Marie-Ange instead.
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Moment of Awesome - Jessie Drake/Chameleon: Nica meets Jessie while she's decorating for Pride, and they discuss being ace in the community.

"Happy Pride!" Jessie threw her arms up in celebration. "Now I accidentally bought a million flags - don't ask how that happened - so do you happen to subscribe to the good word of the queer gods on this door?" She made a show of gesturing to the door like she was about to open it to reveal a grand prize.

Nica paused again. Then she said, rather bashfully: "Do you have a spare ace flag?" Maybe it was time for her to take actual pride in her own orientation.

"Of course!" Jessie dipped into the suite and came back out with an eight by eleven ace flag, proudly presenting it to Nica. "Don't tell the others-" by which she meant the other flags, of course, "but this one is my favorite. The color scheme is just so nice. I might get a bigger ace tattoo next month, I'm starting to get the itch for one again. And the butterflies are so small." She turned her arm to show Nica the pride butterflies in the crook of her elbow - one ace, one aro, and one trans.

Nica blinked. "Wait, are you ace too?" The "too" was kind of a giveaway.

"Sure am!" Jessie puffed up proudly - as much as she was capable of, at least. "It doesn't come up as much as being trans because no one ever really asks, 'hey how do you feel about sex' unless they want to have it with you, but personally I think we should talk more about it."

Nica clutched the flag to her chest. "YES." It couldn't have been more vehement if she'd tried. "I mean, I get it, sex is important for the continuation of the species and all that, but it's everywhere. Especially here. So much sex. All the time." She wrinkled her nose a bit.

"I mean, I feel like the species might benefit from going celibate for like a decade, but..." Jessie waggled her hand back and forth. "That's not the point. And yeah I've noticed people are a lot more..." More hand waving. "Around here. And that's cool, good for them, no shame. But like. Man, I understand libidos even less than I did when I was living in a college dorm."

That got a brief bark of laughter. "I swear the whole place needs hosing down sometimes," she agreed. It was such a relief to talk to someone else who felt the way she did. "I mean, I get it. Lots of attractive, fit young-ish people all crammed into the same living space. But it just gets so damn tiring sometimes!" She tilted her head. "So, this is probably a bit personal, but when you go to Pride... I'm guessing it's under the trans flag? Since it's not really safe with the others?"

Jessie tilted her head a little, curious. "What do you mean 'safe'?"

Nica grimaced. "Well... There's the whole "ace people aren't really queer" dialogue going on. Not just with the straights, but with the whole queer community, you know? And there's a pretty loud group that says we should be included under the Pride umbrella and definitely not at Pride itself." She stopped, feeling awkward.

"You're right, that dialogue does happen." Jessie's tone was a bit more sedate now. "And - first to answer your question, I go under all the flags. I either wear the trans flag as a cape and wear my aro-ace shirt - it's a bow in the ace colors and an arrow in the aro colors - or I wear my ace/aro combo flag and 'nobody knows I'm trans' shirt. And... you're right, people do say that, and they're very loud about it, but they're not the majority. And that's not always reassuring, because they're still loud and kind of scary sometimes, and no amount of reasoning with them is ever going to work. The most important part, I think, is to remember that they're wrong, and also that there are people like them for almost every letter of the community except L and G. Like - bi people who aren't in same-sex relationships. If your partner looks like the opposite gender, then you're not really bi according to the self appointed community judges, and you don't belong at Pride. Trans women - especially lesbians - have a hard time because they're told they 'take resources from real women.' I've been told before that I don't belong to the trans community because I have passing privilege, which is total bullshit. There's always going to be people telling you that you don't belong unless you fit their very strict guidelines of what a queer person should be, and they're wrong. And I know it sounds like I'm making it all seem really easy like you can wake up tomorrow with sudden confidence because you know they're wrong, but really it takes time - and for me years of therapy - so if you want to go to Pride and you're not ready to be loud and proud, that's fine too. No one is going to stop you at the proverbial gate and ask what flag you're attending under, you know?"

Nica took all of this in, nodding along as Jessie spoke. "I guess it's because I've only been out a few years, and only around here," she admitted. "But... maybe it's time I stopped worrying about it." She gave Jessie a shy sort of smile. "If it wouldn't cramp your style, would it be okay if I joined you? For the first little while, anyway?"

"Of course!" Jessie was obviously and absolutely thrilled. She loved helping people find their way into the community, even if they were just testing the waters. "You can join us for whatever you want, however long you want. And if you decide you want to get a little more crazy, we can help."

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